What is the last thing your children would want to see if they walk into your bedroom? I would guess number one is to find you having sex, followed a close second by direct evidence that you ever have sex.
Which begs the question… what’s with the current trend of getting a stripper pole in the bedroom?
Before I deconstruct this one, let me start with a caveat. I like strippers, I like stripper poles and I loved it when my wife and a few friends took pole dancing lessons. That said, we do not (and are not ever vaguely considering) getting our own stripper pole.
But I know a number of couples who are having stripper poles installed. I know two couples who are getting them in their bedroom. Both of these couples have kids. I’m no prude, but I have to admit that I find this a little icky, or maybe just tacky.
Not to pass judgment, but I think kids have a right to be shielded from their parents sexual proclivities. I think it is great when parents have active and kinky sex lives, but their kids really (really!) don’t need to know the details. And walking into your parents stripper-pole adorned bedroom… well, that’s just a bit much for me.
I say this very rarely about sexual stuff… but I find that a stripper pole in the bedroom (if you have kids) is just wrong. As I said, I think visible direct evidence that you have kinky sex is a bit much to impose on your children. It’s fine that they know you have sex (even good) but I think we owe it to them to spare them the kinky details. I would feel the same of any other kink. Whips and floggers belong in a private cabinet, your porn should be on an unaccessible hard drive, and your stripping should be your kinky little secret (at least form your kids).
We were at a party last night – three families. One family was building a new house and was complaining that the quote for their new staircase came in a $24,000. They said they were considering just getting a fireman’s pole instead. Everyone laughed… my daughter (13 years old) deadpanned… ‘we don’t need a pole of any sort in our house… MOM!’ I could not agree more.