There was an interesting article on Huffington Post this morning by The Orange Rhino (???) called 10 Things I Learned When I Stopped Yelling at My Kids (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/the-orange-rhino/10-things-i-learned-when-i-stopped-yelling_b_2886161.html?utm_hp_ref=canada&ir=Canada). I strongly recommend the article.
For me, it helped focus me on some recent contemplation I have been giving to how we treat our kids, and the ways in which we treat them (and don’t treat them) as not just as kids, but as people.
It made me think of how we teach discipline and how we teach respect. Of course, need to install in our children a sense of responsibility and discipline. In order to do this, it means we have to sometimes be firm and directive with our children. As a shortcut, many of us (me included) sometimes resort to raised voices and yelling. Why? Both my wife and I manage many people at work. Part of our jobs are to hold them responsible for their actions but never have either of us yelled at an employee. Why do we treat kurt kids with less respect than we treat our employees.
Like The Orange Rhino, I am trying to teach myself who to teach my children in a firm but respectful way that does not include yelling (much).