We’ve all felt guilted into sex at one time or another. You are not really in the mood and not even your own pleasure or the prospect of your partner’s pleasure reality makes you want it. But you do it – to avoid his/her disappointment or to avoid the tension that comes from withheld sex.
Well, it turns out that a very significant contributor to your sexual and relationship satisfaction links to your reasons for having sex. A University of Toronto researcher asked study participants to rate their relationship and sexual satisfaction after having sex. She found that people in happier relationships tended to have sex because (i) they wanted sex because they liked what it did for them or (ii) they wanted sex because they enjoyed pleasing their partner. People in less happy relationships tended to have sex to avoid a negative (rather than to achieve a positive), so to avoid disappointing their partner or to avoid the conflicts that came form lack of sex.
This probably conforms what you would have intuitively arrived at, but its good to see some science supporting that conclusion.