If you’re a parent these days, its easy to get worry.. hook-up-culture, sexting, tinder. You’d worry your kid was hooking up with every Tom, Dick and Sally in town.
Well, a new survey – a good one, from a reputable academic – published in a 1st tier journal, and with 33,000 respondents – has found that millennials are having less sex than their parents did at that age.
- The average millennial will have only 8 sex partners in their life.. compared with an average of 11 sex partners for baby boomers.
- Only 7% of millennials have sex 2-5 times a week, while 49% have gone without sex for at least a year
- And 1/3 of millennials in their 20s has never had sex.
This is shocking… and pretty much runs counter to everything we read in fear-mongering parenting magazines.
So what’s up? There are a few theories floated in the research:
- millennials are busy.. working, studying .. they simply have little time for sex
- millennials like their porn and video games… rather than finding sexual partners millennials (especially the male variety) prefer sitting in their basement playing video games and, when the mood hits, watching some porn
- And the most interesting theory — millennials are simply too risk averse.. they have been raised to be very sensitive and to fear risk.. and getting involved with someone risks them getting hurt.
This may seem like pretty whimsical stuff, but there is an important message I think. Social media, parenting magazines, even the mainstream media – they seem obsessed with convincing us that our kids are growing up in a sex-crazed and sex-dangerous world. This is simply not the case. Sure there are dangers for our kids and of course they will experiment sexually… but lets keep it in perspective – they appear to be far more cautious than we were… and we made it through those tumultuous years.