Its always been, for me like it is for others, one of life’s great mysteries. Virtually every woman you meet will say she hates getting these and that it never makes her think more of the guy or want to connect with the guy. So, what is behind this behaviour.
It turns out its four things
- Men simply don’t have a clue. There are some men, in fact maybe lots of men, who simply have no idea what women want. We’ve all met them. They catcall girls in the street. They refer to girls as ‘bitches’ with their buddies. And, more than likely, they jerk off to a lot – a LOT – of internet porn. These guys probably think women really do like it and have never had a grown up conversation with a woman where they learn otherwise.
- The anonymity of it. We all do things in private that we were never dream of doing if others knew we were doing it. Enter, the dick pic. You kind of know its wrong.. but ….
- The boldness of men. Men have always relied on boldness and audacity to hunt game, push their way to the leadership of their clan, and to attract makes. And the dick pic – that is boldness incarnate.
- The sexual thrill of sending it. I saved this for last, because its the one that most resonates for me. When I guy is sitting there with a hard dic, looking at the photo of a sexy woman, I think it turns him on in the moment to send her a picture of his ‘sexual expression’. It really has nothing to do with her pleasure or the prospect of getting with her. It gives him a sexual thrill in the moment so he does it.
I’ve never been a fan of the dick pic and have never sent one. But I know they are all over the place. And I know from friends experiences on dating sites, they are a staples. I’ve never understood it, but thanks to science, I do now – kind of, sort of.