Have you ever shared a sexual fantasy with your partner and been disappointed with their reaction? Or disappointed that it got no reaction.
We had a strange experience last weekend. We were having drinks with friends, playing a discussion game that asked your advice in different sexual situations. That lead to a discussion on what our sexual fantasies were. The couple we were with (who we know very well and have open conversations about sex quite regularly) were very into the game and discussion, but when it got to sexual fantasied, things became a bit odd.
The ‘she’ of the relationship said that she would share her sexual fantasy with my wife and whispered it in my wife’s ear. My wife got a huge smile on her face and said that was a great fantasy. When I pressed them to share, our friend just said “S (my wife) will tell you after… when you’re in bed”. I tried to get it out of her a few times but she held firm. Later that night, when my wife and I were alone in our room, she told me about the fantasy. It was good.. very good.
A couple days later, I saw she woman and told her I loved her fantasy. She was happy about this but then told me that her husband didn’t even ask her about it. She was obviously a little put off… she really wanted to tell him… or, more specifically, wanted him to ask about it. But he didn’t.
She took it in stride, but wasn’t sure how to proceed. She asked me if I could find a playful way of getting him to engage. Ideas?