A study from London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine found “an unsettling narrative” at university campuses, wherein boys would repeatedly ask for sex, and even if denied would continue to ask
From the study:
“The overwhelming feeling from the people who had engaged in anal sex was that it exists in a coercive environment. There was this idea that women basically wouldn’t want to do it and that she needed to be persuaded,” said Marston. “They also talked about it as though it was completely normal for men to repeatedly ask their girlfriends for it and repeatedly be told no, but keep asking.”
It has always been this way. As teenagers begin to develop interests in sex, they push the boundaries and see what they can get. They ask, they are told no, they ask again. This was true of a kiss on the porch, and it is true of anal sex. This is not new or surprising.
Personally, I am not into anal sex. My wife doesn’t like it, and I am pretty indifferent to it. But if I was, you can bet I would ask for it and negotiate, and communicate. Isn’t this what relationships are about. Being clear on your needs and wants — communications and negotiations.
….in a related study, UK researchers found that a child asked for candy… was told no… and never asked again.