I received an email today from an over-busy, over-programmed friend complaining about how over-busy and over-programmed her life is. She has reason to complain. Her kids are in a lot of stuff, she has a part time business that eats up a lot of time and energy and she is not all that well organized, so stuff takes her a lot of time.
And she is miserable.
I have tried to be sympathetic in the past, but the more I listen, the more I realize — WE MAKE CHOICES!
As adults, we have the capacity to choose how we spend our 24 hours a day. I am getting ever more frustrated with those who choose to allow their loves to get overly programmed and overly busy and either wear it as a badge of pride, or, worse, expect pity.
Granted, some have to work ridiculously long hours just to make ends meet. I am fortunate that I, and most of my friends, are not in this camp. We are professionals and many of us work long hours, but it is not because we need the extra hours to get by.
I am proud that my wife and I a careful in the choices we make about how to spend our time. We don’t do a lot of housework, but we have lots of quality couple time – as a result our sex lives are great and we are a very happy couple. We don’t put our kids in activities all over town, but we spend tons of time playing with them, as opposed to chauffeuring them all over the place.
Having a balanced life is easy to say, and easy to achieve. It is about the choices we make — we have more control than many seem to believe we have.