What does it take to be a fun, interesting person? Sometimes its as easy as giving yourself permission.
A close friend of mine recently recovered from a pretty serious illness and one of his resolutions, upon returning to health, was to say yes more often. His rationale: as a busy guy and a working parent of two, he often would reject offers to go out or to do things simply out of a sense of ‘negative inertia’. For example, a friend would suggest going out for drinks after work and he would say no because he had to get home and help get dinner and homework ready. Someone would suggest something after dinner and he would say no simply because he was ‘settled in’ for the evening.
But he resolved to change that. He said that, for a year, he would say yes to anything… within reason.
And he’s had some great times. I should lead with the caveat that he is not – REPEAT NOT – a wild and crazy guy. He hasn’t gone out on coke-fueled binges or indulged in orgies. But he has had a lot of fun. He’s gotten into alternative cinema, he’s played bingo at a local super-seedy bingo hall a few times, he’s made lots of new friends and he’s become, by and large, a way funner person to be around.
I should be clear – it has not always been easy. Although he doesn’t go out all that often, it did take an adjustment at home. He and his wife had to get used to the fact that they would sometimes do bedtime and homework rituals on their own. On the up side, however, they will both admit that they find one another more interesting as a result of the more frequent absences.
So, what could you do to be more fun. If you resolved to say yes more frequently, what would you find yourself doing more of?