Are you still searching for that special someone? The one you were meant to be with. The one and only.
Is there only one? Most relationships experts will encourage that there is not one person out there for you. There are many who are close enough to the one. As Dan Savage says, there is no one, there are a bunch of .85s, .76s, and .91s and we round them up to one so that we have someone to be with.
So… is there one special person for you. Science (or pseudo science) has come the the recuse and they have an answer. There are 30,043 for you…. if you are a single female, aged 35-45 living in Toronto, Canada. So not one, but also not that many considering Toronto has about 2.5 million people.
Canada’s national newspaper, the Globe and Mail, has created a dating calculator, based on a similar effort by Baltimore-based journalist Amy Web. Using data from the national statistics agency, dating site profiles and some common sense and guestimation, the Globe developed 72 individual characteristics, that when optimized, would create the perfect match. And, when these characteristics were screened through the 2.5 million people in Toronto, using StatsCan data, 30,043 came back as perfect matches.
Interestingly, when Amy Web did the same exercise in Baltimore – albeit using her set of characteristics – she found only 35 people out of Baltimore’s 1.5 million inhabitants to be her perfect match.
So the take home story…. There is no one, there are some. And while it may feel like you are looking for a needle in a haystack, you aren’t its more like a mid-sized knitting needle.