Our 12 year old daughter loves romantic comedies, and she has wanted to watch There’s Something About Mary for a while, as a few girls in her class have seen it. In what may have been a poorly thought through decision, we let her. Last night.
Neither my wife nor I remembered clearly how adult a lot of the jokes and content are in that movie. But, be that as it may, she watched it.
And the questions ensued.
Firstly, ‘does everyone masturbate?’ My wife gave her an honest answer and told her that, yes; as people get a bit older than she is now, many of them masturbate.
The problem was, she still didn’t know what masturbation was. Again, my wife gave a pretty honest and, I think, age appropriate answer. She explained that it was when you touch your private parts because it feels good. She said it was a private thing and that it usually starts in people older than she is now. My daughter didn’t ask when it usually starts and I’m not sure what we would have said had she asked.
The my daughter turned to the more operational questions. ‘Do most people have a vibrator’. We asked her how she knew about vibrators and she said that some girls in her glass talked about them but that she didn’t really know what they were. My wife explained that they were something that some women use when they masturbate, and she left it at that.
The she turned to sex. She asked how often my wife and I had sex. We said that was provate. She asked if we had had sex since she was born. We said yes. She asked if we had it a lot and we, again, said that was private.
All in all, it was not a bad talk, but it did get me thinking. We really need to have the sex talk with our 12 year old. We’ve put it off because our older daughter has no interest in sex and is in no hurry to mature that way.
Our younger daughter is, however, growing up fast. And she is very curious. We have to get in front of this.