This fall will be like no other. We had a brutal covid winter, isolated in our homes watching Netflix. Summer have a little reprieve, allowing us some outdoor patios and outdoor contact with friends. But I think I speak for most everyone when I say – we didn’t get enough of it and we are […]
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The End of the Crackdown on Recreational Drugs
A friend told us a funny story recently about sneaking pot across the Canada US border in the 1980 at the height of the war on drugs campaign. 4 students headed to Mardi Gras with pot stuffed in their underwear. They were terrified/ The times, they are a changin’.. finally. Pot it largely legal, and […]
Monogomish
At risk of jumping late onto the bandwagon, I wanted to discuss the monogamish lifestyle. Dan Savage coined the term, and its a broad concept covering all relationship models that are not – strictly speaking – monogamy. On the lighter end, think of: the couple that occasionally has a threesome; swingers who every once in […]
Making Time for Sex
We’ve never had more time on our hands. Working from home. Cancelled kids’ activities. Fewer evenings out at shows and restaurants. So, with so much time on our hands, why are we having so little sex? I’ve had countless friends tell me that, despite all the free time they have, their sex lives are pretty […]
I Smell Sex and Candy…
… and by candy, I mean pot. During these covid times, we all need an escape. Something to pull us out of the day to day monotony that this virus has induced in all of us. This really is a thing. I read about a recent study that looked at how we perceive time to […]
Joy in Stangers
I had a strange but wonderful day today. My daughter and I went to a city about two hours away, where she wanted to spend the day with a friend. I was left on my own for about 6 hours – no social connections and (as a little experiment, no phone. I took a couple […]
Drugs – are we missing the point?
There have been a lot of brilliant pieces written on the failing of most countries in managing drugs. Criminalization has lead to massive, dangerous underground economies that don’t reduce drug use; and, for the most part, make it more dangerous. This piece is different. Far simpler. I’ve been doing work lately on how to reinvent […]
Sex in the Time of Cholera
A few months ago, people were predicting a COVID baby boom that would result from all the sex everyone was having as they were in isolation during COVID. It made sense. What would people do during those long evening necessarily spent at home? It turns out they would watch a lot of Netflix. And drink […]
Slowing Down
My friend just finished reading Marcel Proust’s In Search of Lost Time, the 4,200 page novel Proust wrote over 13 years as an allegory of his life. This friend, he set a goal a little over a year ago to read all of the top 50 classical novels of all time. This was his last. […]
Drinking Our Way Through the Pandemic
Are we ever drinking a lot these days. Sales at liquor stores up all over the country. Anecdotally, virtually everyone I speak with is drinking more. A friend who was a careful weekend drinker has started having a drink a few weeknights a week. For many, the occasional evening drink with dinner has switched to […]