There is a variety of choices, running from games that stimulate sexy discussion to those that guide you through foreplay and sex. Many can be played by a couple or a group. Obviously, if you play with a group, you will want to make sure the people you are playing with are people comfortable discussing sex pretty explicitly and, if the game is of the more action-oriented variety, performing sexual acts in front of one another.
In this post I will talk about one of the three varieties of games you can try. In future posts, I will discuss the other two.
Tonight — sexy discussion games. We have tried a couple. The tamest that we have played, but which was very fun, is a called Loaded Questions. In it, a question is asked of everyone, like “where is the weirdest place you have had sex” or “what is the sexiest gift you have ever given”. Each person answers and then you try to match the answer with the person who gave it.
The questions tend to be risqué but not explicitly sexual. We have played Loaded Questions with a number of friends who, while open minded, are not what i would consider sexually open. It was fun, and didn’t cross any boundaries that we thought our friends would not be wanting to cross. It was especially fun at getting people to talk about sex and fantasies in a fun, non-threatening way and it was also interesting to learn how your friends see sex.
We found out a few things that surprised us. One friends, who we considered really conservative, loved skinny dipping. Another, who we we knew was pretty liberal, was really into communal living and likely partner swapping. Still another female friend was had recently been to a lingerie party with friends. Pretty tame stuff but fun.
A second discussion game is based on a book of questions that get progressively racier as the game goes on. It is a book of questions called, I think, Lets Talk About Sex. The first part of the book is pretty tame, with relationship-type questions. As it gives on, the questions get more explicit, asking about sexual fantasies and your openness to different scenarios.
We have played this often as a couple (although some of the questions don’t work with just two) and have only played once with another couple. If you play with a couple, it has to be someone you need to be very comfortable talking about sex with and they have to be very comfortable in their relationship because the questions get very personal. A few I remember: what is your ultimate sexual fantasy, who in the group would you most like to see naked, what is your best sexual talent, of all your friends who would you have a threesome with, how often do you masturbate.
You find out a lot more about your friends (and partner) in a game like this. We found out: the woman we played the game with is bi but has never acted on it. She also went through a phase where she masturbated 5-10 times a day. We found out her partner fetishized nurses and had cross dressed for a former girl friend.
Games like this are fun to get to get to know your friends better, create a little flirtation and encourage you to test your own boundaries. Best of all, they can be really fun.