Family vacations are great. Really great. Really. They provide precious opportunities to bond with your children in a way that is tough in the day-to-day busyness of our lives. And they can be fun. Especially as our kids get a bit older we are experiencing some wonderful adventures together.
But.. and by saying this I will belie some of my personal priorities that will come as a surprise to no one… sex can be tough on a family vacation. I have many friends who have perfectly functional sex lives, but sex on family vacation is, for them, terra incognito.
This need not be the case. There is no reason that — if sex is a priority in your life and relationship — it need suffer while on family vacation.
- Spring for the multi-bedroom suite or two hotel rooms. When you consider all the money you’re spending on that family vacation, its pretty marginal to drop another couple hundred dollars a night to get a nice suite. It may seem like a lot of money when you are booking, but you put it in perspective.. how much more pleasure will all of you get for having your space.
- Send the kids to a movie. This is a win/win .. your children will love the independence of getting to go out to a movie alone and you get two hours of uninterrupted time back at the hotel… 3 hours if you let them get dinner before the show.
- Find time for yourselves after the kids are in bed. We have found that one of the tricks to achieving a great family vacation that still have good couples time is to make sure that you and the kids do not fall into the same sleeping schedules. Sure there will be nights when you are all out late. But on quieter nights, we always make sure the kids go to bed at a reasonable bedtime and we buy ourselves 3-4 hours of couples time to… well.. you know.
- Bathroom sex. It ain’t glamorous, but when you have no other choice .. well… its better than nothing. And sometimes.. when the mood is just right .. its WAY better than nothing.
Family vacations are important. So is sex. Its worth a little effort to make sure you are getting both.