Both my wife and I travel for business… we’re not 100 day/year travellers, but between the two of us, we are probably on the road at lest four or five days a month. And while its true that absence makes the heart grow fonder, it is equally true that repetitive nights home (or on the road) alone makes you a little horny.
So, if you’re in a monogamous relationships and wants o respect the rules of that commitment, a few tips:
- Discuss the ‘rules’ of your commitment. While it is unlikely your partner would be OK with you hooking up with someone on the side when you’re travelling or home alone (although they may be), they may be ok with some non-threatening, sae variation. How would they feel about the occasional erotic massage with a happy ending; maybe some live sex chatting with a paid service.
- Get really, really accepting of masturbation. There are still, to my surprise, people who feel shameful of their own masturbation, and judging of others who do it. You need to get past this. Masturbation and a bit of porn or erotic reading can be a great companion on a lonely night
- Skype of FaceTime sex chat with your partner. This can be incredibly awkward, but also pretty fun once you get the hang of it. And – to really stress this – if your partner is wanting to do it, try to give it an honest chance. It’s hard to ask for something like this and try to show your partner that you’re game to try new, admittedly, challenging sexual stuff.
- Finally, find other evening hobbies. For many coupled folks, their usual evening activities – sexual or otherwise – tend to be pretty sedentary and pretty coupley. When you find yourself alone or on the road, try to break these routines. Get out to a movie or play, reconnect with friends, go to a museum, or go to a coffee shop or bar and write a blog (as I am right now)
I certainly prefer being home with my wife to being a thousand miles away on the road. And when I’m away (or she is) I certainly miss her and the sexual side of our relationship. But fortunately, we have found ways to cope… hope you do too!