I read an interesting factoid and analogy in the Paulo Cuelo book “Adultery’. Apparently Saturn’s rotates around the sun once every 29. So, Saturn will be in the exact same position on your 29th birthday as it was on the day you were born.
In the book, Cuelo uses this fact to illustrate the juxtaposition between (i) the moment we are born and have a life of unlimited possibilities and (ii) our 29th birthday, a point at which many people are starting to put up the walls that prevent them from experiencing new things and idea.
In the book, the protagonist becomes so tired of her idyllic but boring life – cut off more new possibilities – that she strays to adultery.
It made me think – as the author intended – about how to make sure I am not putting those walls up. How to make sure that I am not cutting myself off from new ideas, adventures and possibilities?
First and foremost… I never want to one of those middle aged guys who seems so stuck in their ideology and opinions that you can’t have a decent conversation. For me, it is important to have a core set of values and beliefs, but then to be pretty humble about anything beyond that. I love to be open to new ideas, new information, heady debate… I know it sounds trite, but I always try to listen more than you talk (not always successful, but I try) and allow your mind to be open and your opinions to be swayed.
Thirst for adventure. We can get comfortable in our rituals – where we vacation, where we eat, the people we hang out with. I had a friend once who declared, upon meeting a new person whom he really likes, ‘sorry, my friend card is full… not accepting new applicants at this time’. He was joking, but it did illustrate how we can ct ourselves off from new people, and thereby, new experiences.