Is there something sexually that you’ve always wanted to try? Something out of your routine that has always seemed a little titilating.
Unfortunately, many people reach a stage in life where they think its too late to try new things. Not True! It is never too late to try something that has always intrigued you. As a matter of fact, the older you get, the easier it may be to accommodate these new things into your life or lifestyle.
I close female friend has known for years she was interested in sexual play with women. She went through period (years) where she felt that because she didn’t act on it when she was young, it is something she would never do. Recently, she had a total 180. At 45 years old, she decided she could not imagine herself not ever fulfilling that fantasy. We’ll see what she decides to do, but I thought it was an awesome realization she needed to act on these erotic fantasies rather than feeling she’d missed her chance.
We spoke at length about her decision to finally act on this fantasy. Some of our thoughts:
– keep it in perspective – society places a lot of stigma around sexual desires that are either kinky or non-monogomish. Yet we all have these desires. Keep it in perspective… it’s a little sexual play and if you treat it that way it’s a nice add on to your life, not a change your life.
– communicate your desire – her husband has a vague sense she is interested in women and would very likely be supportive. But they need a good talk about it.
– take your time, but then act – it is really easy to put off doing the things you want to do (but that seem indulgent). There is no reason to do this. Decide and act.
I’m not sure where this decision to act on her fantasy will take her, but I’m really proud of her for deciding to act on this desire.