I began a series earlier this week, discussing sex educator Tracy Cox’s top 20 sexual fantasies for men and for women.
Through this series of blogs, I will get into why I think these are common fantasies, how common they actually seem to be, their realizability, and any other disconnected thoughts I may have at the moment on them. If I’m feeling bold, I may also share some of my experiences with them.
Fantasy #2 for women is having sex with a man other than their husband. Apparently, the fantasies is exentuated when the other man is the spouse or partner is a friend.
So what is the basis of this fantasy. I guess the idea of sex with another man is pretty obvious — we crave variety and we crave sex with different people.
It’s the second part that surprises me a bit. Why would the fantasy be better if the sex is with the partner of a friend? I asked my wife and another female friend about this. Their reaction was (i) they certainly fantasize about other guys, but (ii) the idea of it being a partner of a friend doesn’t really do it for them. Their guess was that sex with a friend’s partner would, for some, make them feel like their are sexier and more desirable than their friends. I guess this makes sense, but it also seems a little mean spirited.
So, ladies… do you fantasize about other guys (of course you do) and do you like to think about stealing them from a friend?