Male sex toys… fleshlights, butt plugs, cock rings… I have to admit I have never tried any of these. But over drinks last night with friends, the topic came up.
It started innocently enough. One of the women made a joke about her vibrator. Another confessed that she didn’t own one, while my wife proudly said that she had three and would highly recommend each one of them, depending on you mood that evening.
But then the topic turned to male sex toys. And none of the guys had any experience whatsoever. So, it begged the question of the sex toy double standard.
I consider myself extremely sex positive and pretty experimental. So why have I never given male sex toys a try. I’ve considered it and wanted to, but the honest truth is that none of them appeal to me. Maybe I’m being closed minded but:
- the fleshlight or cock sleeve – it seems big, bulky and I can’t see it being as responsive and accommodating as my hand. I simply don’t see the pleasure it would bring;
- the butt plug – my wife is really not into anal stuff or ass play. She is the first to admit that it is a mental block.. she considers it icky. But I’m curious about it, so maybe this is something I should try on my own.. but I wouldn’t say I have a burning desire, which is likely why I haven’t done it yet
- the cock ring – no excuse here. While I don’t think it will transform our sex lives, I have no good reason for not trying this. My wife and I even bought one at a sex show last year.
So… 2 of 3 I would consider, yet never have. Why? I suspect it is a combination of (i) a mild taboo and prejudice against male sex toys (they just don’t seem as mainstream as female sex toys) and (ii) a lack of excitement over what they’ll bring to the game. Since Sex and the City and the Rabbit, female sex toys have promised a second coming (cumming) of sexual excitement; male sex toys, while perhaps mildly enhancing, offer no such Christ-like promise.
Today’s resolution… within the month, we’ll use the cock ring. I will also buy a small butt plug. The fleshlight, however, will stay on the shelf.