I had an interesting debate with friends the other night about the importance to sex in a good marriage. We got caught in a circular argument that I thought was interesting. Here were the two perspectives; your thoughts?
1. wife from other couple: sex is necessary for a good marriage/relationship and if you are having trouble with your relationship, work on your sex life and the rest will come together
2. me: good sex is a natural bi-product of a strong relationship. If you are having issues with your relationship, work on things like respect, having fun together, reducing tension. As you deal with these, great sex occurs naturally.