As I enter middle age, I have come to a few conclusions: (i) the middle-aged, professional, parenting class is extremely busy and overly consumed with their day-to-day responsibilities; (ii) this makes them pretty darn negative and boring (unless you enjoy talking about schools, your kids and playground drama); and (iii) swingers completely defy (i) and (ii).
My wife and I were out last night with friends who have confided in us that they are swingers, and with anther couple we did not know, but who are also swingers. It was just drinks at a downtown bar, so nothing sexy. But here is what we found:
- They are really, really positive and happy people. They really like one another, they have adventures together (non-sexual as well as sexual) and they have a happy disposition;
- They talk about really interesting things. Sure, there was some discussion on kids, but much more on politics, current affairs, a little on religion and lots on travel, adventure and fun shared experiences
- They really, really like one another. We’ve all been in (far too many) situations where it is clear that a couple has a lot of long built up resentment toward one another that expresses it a multitude of ways – a snide comment, avoided topics of conversation, subtle (or not so subtle) criticisms. These people really love and respect each other.. and sincerely love one another company.
Are inherently happy, interesting, well rounded people drawn to swinging OR does swinging make you happy, well rounded and interesting… I suspect its the former but one conclusion is irrefutable… they are great people to be around.