1. when cheating is the lesser sin in a relationship, yet for some reason the relationship is worth preserving: As an example, say two people are good parents to their children or very financial intertwined. At the same time one of the partners, say the husband, is clearly completely uninterested in the relationship – not just sex – but really has no interest in his wife; they interact only on parental or transactional matters and it is clear that he has no interest in her as a friend or wife. My wife and I agreed that, for us, this would justify cheating and the major sin in this relationship is husband’s treatment of his wife.
2. Dan Savage unrolls a scenario where a partner (use wife for this example) is unable to have sex, say as a result of a chronic disease. Her partner is a great husband in every sense but still he has sexual needs and desires. If it would cause great guilt or pain for the wife to be aware of this unmet need and the husband can find a safe and discreet way to get some sexual relief outside the relationship, we agreed this was ok.
I am interested in the toughest of others on this. Is it crazy to think that cheating can ever be justified or are there other scenarios in which cheating is OK?