I think that’s a reference to an old 80s song… but I’m not sure. But in this case I’m referring to the dilemma most of us face in prioritizing the fun parts of our life over the day-to-day.
I was having a conversation recently with a close female friend. We were speaking of sex – as we often do. I asked her what were her favourite sexual acts and kinks. She said she was a little embarrassed but she loved, loved anal. I assured her this was cool and pretty common (I’m not hugely into anal but I certainly understand the appeal and was actually pretty impressed that she liked it as much as she seemed to).
The when I used her how often she has anal, I was floored. “Its been a little over 14 years. We used to do it before kids, but we haven’t since they were born”. WTF??? When I think of a few of my favourite things – sex, Dairy Queen Blizzards, rock climbing – there is no way I am going 14 years without any of those.
So.. it got me thinking… how do we make sure we are prioritizing our joy. A few thoughts:
- Reverse your priorities. Set aside three 1 hour blocks per week to do only the things you most like. Schedule them and, then when the time comes, do them no matter what. To hell with you responsibilities… do what you love… three times a week for an hour each time. I suppose if that’s anal, your ass may be a little sire initially… so maybe anal once and DQ Blizzards the other two.
- Celebrate your indulgences. After you’ve given into your pleasurable acts, allow yourself to feel good about it. Never – not even for a second – allow yourself to feel guilty about what you were not doing;
- Allow the pleasure you feel from the acts carry your attitude for the rest of the day. This may be linked to the point above, but when you allow yourself pleasure and allow yourself to feel good about having allowed it… it will permeate you and make everything and everyone in your life feel better.
14 years without your favourite thing is a long time.. too long. Whether you’ve been hankering for a meat lovers pizza, a weekend in Vegas, or your lovers dubbed cock sliding gently into your ass… drop everything this instant and go get it!!