We’re getting a hot tub. We’ve wanted one for a while, but the environmentalist side of us had always pushed off the decision. Finally, in the spring, after a brutal 10k run in a raging snow storm, we decided, ethics-be-damned, we were getting a hot tub. So, by September our backyard will be transformed from badminton court to a hedonistic playground.
So, now comes the hard question. What do we wear in the hot tub. My wife and I were discussing this last night over dinner, and we came up with 4 scenarios, only one of which presented a real dilemma.
Scenario 1 – Family Fun – Despite our wild fantasy of super-model attended hot tub parties, the reality is that most of our hot tubbing will likely be pretty G rated – with kids and their friends. This is a no-brainer of course. My wife has bought, and I have, a perfectly conservative sports bathing suit that will be suitable attire for family-friendly hot tubbing.
Scenario 2 – Swinger friends – As I have disclosed in previous blogs, we do not swing, but we have a number of friends who do (swingers are great people). With them, the dress code is equally obvious – nude. They know and respect our rules.
Scenario 3 – Vanilla friends – We have many friends, who we like very much, but are pretty vanilla and conservative. I can’t imagine (I may be wrong) them getting naked. When my wife bought her new sports bathing suit she also bought a sexy (but not too sexy) bikini that would be suitable for our less adventurous friends.
Scenario 4 The sex positive friends – These are the hard ones. We have a number of friends who are very open about sex and we have a fun, flirtatious relationship with them. But we’ve never (or very rarely) been naked together. We told one of the couples we were getting a hot tub and their immediate reaction was “yay – naked hot tubbing”. I think this is likely fine, but I’m not positive. My wife’s initial reaction was of course we’d be all naked together because we already have a sexy and pretty open relationship with them. I think she’s probably right, but I’m not positive. Here’s my dilemma…. if there was no sexual flirtation between us, I would say – absolutely, be naked. I am very comfortable with nudity and would be socially naked in pretty much any circumstance were it is appropriate. There are virtually no friends (no matter how conservative) that I would not hang out with naked if they wanted. But… with friends with whom their is sexual flirtation, does being naked in a close, boozy, sexually charged environment invite temptation? I’m unsure. To be safe, my wife also bought a very sexy, one piece thong mono bikini, thinking that maybe topless hot tubbing could be a sexy, but safer compromise.
I may be (likely am) overthinking this, but such are my Saturday morning coffee musings.