It seems hard to believe, but 15 years ago I don’t think I even knew what ‘grooming for sex’ meant. I knew women would trim their bikini line, but beyond that – brazilians, landing strips, manscaping – outside of porn, I had no idea they existed in the ‘real’ world.
I remember the first time a female friend confided in me that she shaved herself bare ‘down there’. It had been a fantasy of her boyfriends, so one evening in the bathtub she just went for it. When I told my wife about it, her reaction was typical of the time — the idea of a bare pussy was too prepubescent. And for a man to mess around with his public hair – no way.
But times have changed. I think. I would certainly admit that the only people with whom I discuss genital grooming are pretty sexually open, but sexual grooming seems the norm now. Almost all of my female friends do very considerable grooming. Female friends who are swingers are pretty much all fully shaved. ‘Vanilla’ female friends pretty much all groom and have zero to little hair.
Men are a little different. I still no plenty of guys who do not groom. I got a text during a very important work meeting I was in, from an old colleague. It was marked URGENT, so I stepped out; the text: “I am at lunch with X and Y (female colleagues) and they are appalled that I don’t manscape — do you???”. To the extent I have spoken with guy fiends about manscaping, it seems that most of the guys do.
So, how about all of you. Where do you stand on the male or female grooming – are you bear, a little hair or in full bloom?