Did you know that when you have a vasectomy you need to go 4 days without sex in order to have your semen tested to make sure it no longer contains sperm?
This means 4 days of forced abstinence. Not to sound like a whining baby, but I’m pretty unhappy about it… and really wondering what lack of wisdom caused me to decide to do this over a weekend.. in spring. Is there any worse time to go without sex?
But it has caused me to think about a few things. Firstly, non-sexual forms of intimacy… My wife and I had an awesome, fun, romantic evening last night. Any other evening like this would certainly end in sex. But last night we couldn’t. So we had an awesome time but just made out and could not have sex. A part of me says that was really nice.. another part of me (a bigger part) thought ‘boy, I sure would love to have sex right now’.
Secondly, and maybe this is good, does a short period of denial make the desire all the stronger. I can say a heartfelt yes. I pretty much take daily or near-daily sex for granted. Having to wait for it has certainly built some anticipation… in both me and my wife. And this anticipation is probably good for us… allowing the pressure to build will, I suspect, make the release all the sweeter.