There was a question on the Savage Lovecast a couple weeks ago from a woman who had, during her pregnancy and just after her child’s birth, helped her husband get his sexual needs met by masturbating him and telling him stories about threesomes with female neighbours.
She didn’t really like this and certainly wasn’t aroused by it, so now that she has her sex drive back, she wants to (i) return to sex being more about just the two of them; (ii) pull back on the fantasizing about being with other people.. especially female friends and neighbours.
It made me think about how far we should go to indulge our partner’s fantasies and interests, especially when they don’t turn us on. This seems like a pretty harmless fantasy, if kept in check. But, if as she was complaining of, the husband wants her to spin out elaborate fantasies (which don’t turn her on, and actually kind of repulse her) this seems pretty selfish on his part.
For my wife and I, this led to a pretty hot discussions on what variations of the fantasy turned us both on, and what we would like to incorporate in our fantasy lives.
Are there scenarios you like to play out, verbally or in your head, as you are having foreplay or sex?
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