With that cumbersome title, let me get right to the point. It is an truism that sex permeates our thoughts and our desires and, for better or for worse, guides many of our major life designs. Thus…the old chestnut – everything is about sex.
But the corollary to that – except sex… sex is about power. I don’t buy it. Of course there are those who use sex, and they sway over people, as a means to exert power. More often, tough, I think sex is really a search for intimacy. This is no great revelation, but hear me out.
My theory of the day: we are increasingly disconnected from true intimacy. We tend to live away from our families, we have busy lives so we have fewer deep friendships, and we live much of our lives online.
The result this isolation…. we feel disconnected from intimacy. A study came our recently that showed the most common factor in a infidelity is a spouse that feels alone and under-busy. They seek sex elsewhere because their miss intimacy on their lives. A friend of mine has considered infidelity many times (he may have done it). He will claim otherwise but I know, deep down, the reason he is prone to cheating is because he wants to be desired and close to someone… if only for a moment.
Anyways… that;s my thought for the day.