Would you ever consider opening up your relationship, sexually?
It can be done in many ways, ranging from a couple going to a strip club and getting a lap dance (not sure this is really opening up, but it’s a step) to having a threesome, to full-on dating and having sex with others outside your relationship.
I tend to be pretty supportive of open relationship choices. I think there are different models that a better for different couples, but in general I think that a good relationship can often be made better with a little sexual exploration and openness. That said, individual results may vary and I have been known to be wrong.
I was listening to an old podcast that I used to like – Sex Is Fun. This episode was quite late in the series and was recorded after the host and his wife decided to explore full swap swinging (having sex with other people). By all accounts, they had an excellent relationship up until this experiment, and had dabbled in open relationship for years (although never doing full swap).
It was sobering just how badly this was for their relationship. Going story short… they were on vacation at a swingers resort in Mexico, they met another couple they clicked with an decided to have full swap for the first time, it went well but the host’s wife (Jade) developed pretty strong feelings for the guy she had sex with. Next chapter of the story… Jade cannot help herself frOm keeping in contact with this guy and clearly develops strong feeling for him. When this threatens her marriage she still can’t stop herself from connecting with him and flirting with him (online sex and such). It almost destroys the marriage.
So… I bring it up as a reminder (to myself and others). My wife and I have fun with our sexuality and try to keep our sex life fun, varied and interesting. It is worth a reminder that sex can come with strong emotions and that emotions can be tough to control.
So… while Sex Is Fun (as the podcast proved over hundreds of episodes) it is also serious stuff. Be careful out there.