“I really don’t like the sight of people having sex”, said a friend who was over for dinner last night. We were talking about both rom/com movies and the study I blogged on yesterday, about porn viewing. And this was her comment. She does not like porn or erotica or even nudity in movies… because she doesn’t like the sight of other people having sex.
I wasn’t sure what to say. I watch porn, my wife and I watch porn together, and we’ve always considered it a pretty fun hobby. I could tell my wife was feeling exactly the same… wanting very much to ‘come out of the closet’ with our porn hobbies just to make the point that lots of ‘normal’ people like watching others have sex.
I fully understand that porn is not everyone’s cup of tea. There are lost of things to dislike about porn – the cheesiness, the ethical standards in much of the industry, the explicitness. Porn can be pretty bad, at times.
So, I asked her.. is it porn you don’t like or is it exploitation or women. Basically “come on.. everyone likes seeing sex.. surely it is the delivery system you have issue with”. But no, she simply does not like seeing nudity or people having sex. Her husband – a great guy – was very silent. I had the good sense not to ask for his talk on it, knowing from personal experience with him at a strip bar that he certainly has no problem with seeing nudity :)).
I’m likely over reacting. I’m sure there are lots of people just like her. Many, many people are not into sex and sexuality…. and that’s fine. I juts didn’t know any of my close friends fell into that camp.