To those of you out there in the dating world – especially women – I salute you.
I don’t date – I am happily married and have been for 13 years – but I received a harsh reminder this weekend of how tough that world can be.
I was sitting in a coffee shop as my daughters were at a birthday party. I was kind of ready a book, but mostly eavesdropping on a conversation at the next table. It was a man and woman, about 40 years old, who were obviously on a first date. They had met through an online dating site so this was their first face-to-face meeting.
He was an ass. And not in the typical, I’m so great… let’s talk about how great I am sort of ass. He was way worse. He was a boring ass. He led off their conversation with a bit about a coffee course he had recently taken. Not bad… they’re in a coffee shop and it was clearly an interest of his. He proceeded to talk for 20 minutes about EVERYTHING he learned in this course. What makes a good cup of coffee. The proportions in a perfect cup. The role of a good coffee grinder. The problems with the coffee this shop made.
The woman – she hardly got in a word edgewise. I’m sure she’s thinking: “Ok, you like coffee. Next”. But there was no next. After 20 minutes, she sweetly tried to insert a few new topics. Did he have other hobbies. She was into cycling and travelling…. Nothing. He doggedly came back to more coffee talk. At this point he was onto what countries have the best coffee beans.
After a few really half decent attempts to salvage thing, the woman obviously decided to suck it up and let the clock run out. She listened politely for a few more minutes, finished her coffee and thanked him for meeting.
For those of you out there trying to find someone. You have my sympathy… and my utmost respect.