I posted yesterday on an amazing sexual experience my wife and I had last weekend, with a close female friend (https://mik1999.com/2015/03/30/an-amazing-sensual-first/). In a nutshell, after a long flirtatious buildup and desire on all sides, an evening of dinner and then drinks at our place turned into long, sensual makeout session between my wife and our friend (R). As I wrote about yesterday, it was highly sensual, pretty innocent (kissing, sensual groping) between the two of them as I watched (that was a rule R had with her husband).
I promised to continue the story and explain how things could have gone off track. So… over the course of the evening, there were two points where things could have gone in different directions. I said I would explain and share my thoughts on each:
1. What is the rule on clothing? We knew that R’s ‘permission’ from her husband was to make out with another woman. As she and my wife where kissing, probably after about 20 minutes, their hands began to wander and explore more. R reached into my wife blouse, first with one hand and then two; initially she was touching the outline of her breast but then began playing with her nipples. Similarly, my wife was reaching under R’s sweater. At one point, R removed my wife’s belt and began to pull up her top and reach down her tights a bit.
So, there was a definite moment where they were about to take one another clothes off. As an observer, it was clear that R wanted go further and I know my wife was getting very turned on and would have liked the same. No one said anything, but both my wife and I knew that this would not be OK with R’s husband – either getting naked or what might happen if they both found themselves naked. As much as my wife (and I) were enjoying the experience, this is a couple we really love and we would never do anything that would compromise their relationship. To my wife’s great credit, she put on the breaks. In a very subtle and respectful way, she made it clear that they should stay clothed. To R’s credit, it didn’t disrupt the mood at all and they continued with their kissing and touching, at the same level of intimacy as before; I think R knew intuitively why my wife was keeping things from progressing.
2. Voyeurism/Exhibitionism – R knew that my wife and I had a bit of a thing for exhibitionism/voyeurism and had been in situations where we have had sex in front of others and had others have sex in our presence. She had no experience with it, but I knew from past discussions that the idea excited her. At one point (I can’t remember exactly when), R asked me if she could watch my wife and I have sex. I was torn. I thought it would be very sexy and very fun. R would not be directly involved and it was a fun way for me to get involved without crossing any lines between R and I. So, perhaps thinking more with my penis than my mind, I was in. My wife, however, thought differently. It was clear that she felt this would cross a line and (again, very subtly and gracefully) but a stop to the notion.
During both of these moments, my wife told me afterwards, her screen was “if R’s husband knew exactly what was going on, how did she think he would respond”. She said (and we know him really well), the idea of the two of them making out and groping a bit would be fine even if he wasn’t there for it. But when it comes to being fully naked or having sex (even if R was not involved directly) he would likely be uncomfortable.
I know my wife was correct.