A few weeks ago, I wrote about a fun, sensual adventure we had with a friend. As a reminder… after a long flirtatious buildup and desire on all sides, an evening of dinner and then drinks at our place turned into long, sensual makeout session between my wife and our friend (R). It was highly sensual and pretty innocent (kissing, sensual groping) between the two of them as I watched. It was within what R thought her husband (who was out of town) would be OK with, but she was not 100% sure and he did not know what was going on while he was out of town.
Someone recently asked me if there was any fallout after the fact. So… the prologue.
R did tell her husband what happened. R presented it to him well (I think). She rolled it out in the context of “you know this is something I have wanted to do of a while, the opportunity came up and I went for it. I’m sorry I didn’t tell you beforehand, but it doesn’t threaten our relationship at all and I don’t regret it”.
Her husband’s reaction was pretty good. He said he was not at all upset and a little intrigued, but he apparently had no desire to really discuss it in depth. When we saw him next, about 2 days later, I got no hint that he was upset or uncomfortable. If anything he was more engaged, flirtation and relaxed than he usually is when we get together. I definitely got the sense that he was a little aroused by the sexual vibe and adventure.
R’s reaction since has been harder to understand. In retrospect, I think she has mixed feelings and is a little conflicted. A tiny bit of context: my wife and I are very good friends with R and her husband, but R and I are the closest friends. Furthermore, out of the four of us, I am the most likely to suggest new or different activities or sexy issues for discussion – I am the instigator. So… R’s conflicted reaction. In retrospect, she feels that what she and my wife did was awesome and fun. She said she really liked it and would have liked to have taken it further (which may be the source of her conflicted feelings). Yet, she feels guilt that I was there for it and her husband was not. But… she knows that it likely would not have happened had I not been there. She has told me that when she and my wife started to make out, she knew that it was a bit wrong that she was doing it with me there (and feared she might want it to go further amongst the three of us – at one point she asked if she could watch my wife and I have sex.. we politely declined, knowing that was too far with her husband not there), but despite knowing that was a bit wrong, she felt the opportunity would never arise if I was not there. So, she went for it… but not without some sense of guilt.
And for me… this makes me feel a little guilty. Did I encourage her to do something she wasn’t 100% comfortable with. I didn’t mean to, but I will admit, I do encourage people to explore their sexuality.
So, where does that leave us all? I’m not sure. We have hung out as friends since. It has been fun and fine but I do sense she is a little less relaxed than she usually is (her husband is great and fine).. but this may be because she is really busy and stressed with other stuff. We have a family vacation planned in a few weeks (the two families). I don’t know what to expect then. I’m sure it will be fine.. but I’m not sure if there will be any sexy adventures…. will keep you all posted.