We can all fall into ruts. Day-to-day life gets busy and we start to ignore the important, in favour of the transactional. And what suffers… your relationships and you intimacy.
So, especially as we find ourselves approaching the hectic holiday season, here are a few tips to make sure you are prioritizing keeping your relationship hot and sexy.
- Initiate, initiate, initiate… especially if you are not normally the one that initiates sex. It is easy to simply not get around to having sex, and when you are busy sometimes you hardly notice. Well, you hardly notice, until two weeks have passed and you’re feeling edgy and irritable because you haven’t been intimate with your partner in a fortnight. There is nothing sexier and reaffirming than when your partner shows that they want you… and this is never more true than during those hectic times.
- Not just a quickie. When you’re feeling stressed, a quick roll in the hay (or hand job before lights out) is all well and good. But it really doesn’t satisfy the hunger. Even if you’re busy, make time for a prolonged session or intimacy where you pull out all the stops. Play a sexy boardgames (if you’re geeky… like me), get out your fetish gear (if you’re kinky), get a couples erotic massage (if you’re into that, and its legal where you live). Do whatever it takes to have quality sex… these moments are the ones you will remember when the dust settles and the business of the seasons subsides
- Keep sex in perspective. As important as it is to fit in sex.. both the quick and dirty and the prolonged and soulful… recognize that busy times sometimes come with a little less sex than would be your optimal. Don’t allow this unfortunate reality to create tension in your life or relationship.