I like to own my sexuality, and project it whenever I feel I can. Of course, there are times and places where this isn’t appropriate (like with your kids, or within the workplace) – but there are many times when it is, and it feels really fun and empowering. When I’m feeling happy and sexual, […]
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Do Your Kinks Embarrass You?
Sexual advice guru Dan Savage famously said that everything that can be imagined by the human mind can be sexually fetishized by the human mind. A quick search of the internet will uncover the wildest, most alluring, most offensive, most wonderful and most awful depictions of sexual creativity and depravity any of us can imagine. […]
Wild Sex
The appeal of sex in nature has always been somewhat lost on me. On a sandy beach, in the woods, in a field – I’ve never really understood the romantic appeal. But recently, on a long drive through Vermont and New Hampshire, I finally got. My wife and I were on a long drive to […]
Sex in the Time of Cholera
We’ve all been there. You feel a cold coming on – or your partner does – but… you’re also feeling that staring in your nether region. What do you do? Sickness be damned… you’re going in? Or, is sex a no go zone until the risk of infection is gone. I did an informal survey […]
I Can’t Believe I Missed National Orgasm Day
Was you calendar marked? July 31 was National Orgasm Day. I’m embarrassed to say I had no idea there was a National Orgasm day, let alone when it was. But, being late to the party, I will say that I am thrilled there is such a day. I hope everyone celebrated it well. A few […]
Living Life .. don’t let it pass you by
I will (somewhat proudly) admit to suffering from a severe affliction of FOMO (fear of missing out). I’ve written on this theme before – we all have a limited number of active years in our lives and we want to cram as much living into those years as possible. So, when my wife and I […]
What Your Emojis Say About You
I did an informal survey recently… over the course of a couple days, I asked about a dozen friends and colleagues if I could see their phone and look at what their most frequently used emojis were. My theory – the emojis you frequently use will give an insight into your personality and mood predisposition. So, […]
Want to Improve Your Oral Sex – Phone a Friend
Giving good oral sex is not obvious… at all. While there are some general rules, each person is somewhat unique in what they enjoy in the oral department. For a guy going down on a girl, you need to figure out (i) how much pressure is just right; (ii) where do they like that pressure.. […]
Recovering from Infidelity
There are some holes from which you can never dig yourself out of. Sexual and emotional infidelity in a marriage if often one of those. Today, I’m having drinks with an old friend who is trying to do exactly that. For over four years she had an emotional and sexual affair with a man from […]
Getting your Kink on – a guest blog from my wife
A few weeks ago, in the midst of a steamy sex session, I called my husband “Sir” – to amazing results! To give a little context, I’m a very strong and confident woman, so subservience doesn’t come naturally to me. We have a very active and exciting sex life, complete with toys and story telling, […]
A Book Of First 4: Wake Surfing
I started a short series recently on the importance of still being open to new experiences as we get older. Some of my themes are sexual – and I will come back to that – but today I want to go more physical. Wake surfing – surfing (on a surf board) in the waves created […]
The Bachelor Party Renaissance
My first bachelor party… I’m 19, and a friend had unexpectedly gotten his girlfriend pregnant was getting married. The bachelor party – a suite at the Holiday Inn, a stripper (at the time I had no idea strippers did house calls) and a bathtub full of beer. At that point in my life I had […]
Video Sex Chatting – hope and hard work
In the fantasy recesses of my mind, the idea of video sexting always intrigued me. Having a glass of wine and chatting sexily as we watch each other become aroused… I like the idea. I was never under the illusions that it would be easy…. keeping a sexy banter and discussion that is stimulating for […]
Are you BIG enough?
Guys care about the size of their penis. A lot. I’m reading Everybody Lies: Big Data, New Data and What the Internet Can Tell Us About Who We Really Are, Looking at big data derived from internet searches, the author develops a very sophisticated understanding of what we really care about. And men are absolutely obsessed […]
The Sexual Evolution of a Relationship
Here’s an interesting exercise. Think back to you in your 20s (assuming you are not still in your 20s) … what kind of sexual person were you then. And how have you evolved into the sexual person you are now? My wife and I did this last night. It was a special anniversary for us […]
Restaurant Tipping: Who Does it Best?
When you leave your 10, 15, 20, 25% tip at the end of the meal, do you ever wonder if you’re being generous enough… or too generous? I have? A new study out of Princeton looked at the tipping patterns of different demographics. The results are a little surprising. The best tippers are male Republicans (shocking to […]