Live life to the fullest. Has someone ever said something that perfectly represents you. We were out Friday evening for a friend’s birthday. It was a night of many laughs, lots (a lots) of cocktails, wine and Prosecco and much love. A perfect evening. Part way through the dinner, our friend disappeared inside the restaurant, […]
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Are we too focussed on sex?
A friend recently said to me “you speak about sex more than anyone I know”. I’m sure he was right, but I am not sure his underlying point – that I talk about sex too much – was, in fact correct. I said back to him… ‘what percent of the time do you think we […]
The Appeal of Rough Sex?
I was looking through an online dating/hookup site this weekend and a something jumped out at me – how often people specifically mention an interest in rough sex. Or similarly, how frequently they specifically mention that they to do not like it. Rough sex was the sexual activity most frequently mentioned – both the liking […]
The Invisible Sexual Revolution
Is there a trend developing – 30-something women leaving their families to pursue female-female relationships. For the second time in the past month, friends have told me about a daughter of theirs (in their early 30s) leaving their husband and kids to pursue their bisexuality. In both cases the situation was near identical. Happy, stable […]
A Little Cleavage Never Hurt Anyone
… unless you’re in Paris. It takes a lot to annoy the French. Especially when it comes to sex. So imagine my surprise when I came across this newspaper article about a woman who was kicked out of Paris’ Musee d’Orsee for wearing a dress with too much cleavage. My jaw kind of dropped — […]
Getting Ready for a Sexy Fall
This fall will be like no other. We had a brutal covid winter, isolated in our homes watching Netflix. Summer have a little reprieve, allowing us some outdoor patios and outdoor contact with friends. But I think I speak for most everyone when I say – we didn’t get enough of it and we are […]
Would you send a nude selfie?
With covid, many of our relationships have become remote. We’re spending more time on Zoom and FaceTime for both our work and personal interactions. While many of these online interactions are professional or transactional, others are of a more personal nature. And as we spend more and more time with people online, some of these […]
Elf Porn… really?!!?
Everyone knows internet rule 34… anything you can think of, its been turned into internet porn. Yesterday, searching for anything to do but work, I was texting back and forth with a about juts that topic – what weird internet porn is out there. We started with elves. Its actually not bad. They have a […]
Is Bisexuality on the Rise
When I was growing up – say high school or college – I don’t think I know of a single person who identified as bisexual. Today bisexual seems to be approaching status of ‘default setting’, with so many young people characterizing themselves as bi. During a discussion with my daughter the other evening, she shared […]
The End of the Crackdown on Recreational Drugs
A friend told us a funny story recently about sneaking pot across the Canada US border in the 1980 at the height of the war on drugs campaign. 4 students headed to Mardi Gras with pot stuffed in their underwear. They were terrified/ The times, they are a changin’.. finally. Pot it largely legal, and […]
Monogomish
At risk of jumping late onto the bandwagon, I wanted to discuss the monogamish lifestyle. Dan Savage coined the term, and its a broad concept covering all relationship models that are not – strictly speaking – monogamy. On the lighter end, think of: the couple that occasionally has a threesome; swingers who every once in […]
Making Time for Sex
We’ve never had more time on our hands. Working from home. Cancelled kids’ activities. Fewer evenings out at shows and restaurants. So, with so much time on our hands, why are we having so little sex? I’ve had countless friends tell me that, despite all the free time they have, their sex lives are pretty […]
An Older Version of our Younger Selves
I’ve just finished reading In Search of Lost Time by Marcel Proust – a behemoth 4,200 page novel through which Proust realizes that by carefully examining every memory he has… we are all merely older versions of our younger selves. Last night, out with friends, we discussed whether this true. Are we all, in fact, […]
Would you Cam?
In keeping with the theme I wrote on yesterday – sexual kinks – how do you feel about online video sexting? In these COVID days, it’s apparently all the rage. People meet online on dating sites and, rather than meet in person, they hop online and do the dirty. Sometimes it’s just sexy chatting and […]
Fetishes of the Feet
My wife shared a list with me last from the site AskMen ranking the top sexual fetishes. At the top of the list – apparently way above the others – was foot fetishes. The worship of feet. I had no idea. While I find there is nothing awful or off-putting in this fetish, I don’t […]
Indulge With a Sexy Fashion Show
Keeping things hot and sexy these days can be a challenge. As we spend more time inside than we’re used to, its fun to find ways to transform your home environment into a place that’s a little sexier and more exotic. An idea.. for those bold enough to try. Host a sexy fashion show. Pick […]