I had a strange but wonderful day today. My daughter and I went to a city about two hours away, where she wanted to spend the day with a friend. I was left on my own for about 6 hours – no social connections and (as a little experiment, no phone. I took a couple […]
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Date Night During COVID
If you’re married with kids, you are probably feeling a lot like us now… Love those kids but how the hell do we get them out of the house so we can have some alone time? For four months, we’ve done the quiet, quick, furtive alone time. We’ve had more missionary position sex than at […]
Sexual Literacy – Dogging
Why had I never heard of this term? Dogging is – I recently learned – the act of having sex in a semi public place where you could easily get caught. And if caught, perhaps letting the voyeurs participate on the act with you. I’d never heard of this. But when I asked three friends […]
Packing for a Sexy Vacation
Never have we needed a vacation more than we do in 2020. And while we cannot go far this year, we can go sexy. Last night, as friends were packing for a short family getaway, we started brainstorming how they could make sure they got some sexual relief during the 1 week getaway. Some ideas […]
Drinking Our Way Through the Pandemic
Are we ever drinking a lot these days. Sales at liquor stores up all over the country. Anecdotally, virtually everyone I speak with is drinking more. A friend who was a careful weekend drinker has started having a drink a few weeknights a week. For many, the occasional evening drink with dinner has switched to […]
Lingerie… a pandemic casualty
This weekend, my wife and I were back in a shopping mall for the first time in 4 months. I knew there would be changes and that there would be stores that probably had no survived this period of economic retreat. What I had not anticipated was how perfectly this economic collapse would seem to […]
Sexy Video Chatting in COVID Times
Desperate times call for desperate measures. Of the many challenges over the past few months, keeping our sex lives spicy may seem relatively minor. But its not. A satisfying sex life is essential to our emotional and physical well being. And its key in keeping us connected to our partner… which these days, is so […]
What Do You Look For In a Romantic Partner?
A friend of mine recently finished his PhD in Psychology from a prestigious US university. His professional focus is relationships and relationship counselling. I’ve always been interested in what attracts us to our significant others and was, therefore, really excited to get his take on the rules of attraction. So, imagine my disappointment when he […]
A Life Well Lived
People can surprise you. Last weekend, a good friend and a group of his neighbours were helping clean out a house belonging to an elderly couple who has just passed away. The couple was well liked in the neighbourhood but their kids were out of country and unable to return because of COVID and neighbours […]
Finding Your Mojo in these COVID Times
We’ve all noticed it. As we’re trapped in our homes, denied socializing and outings, time doesn’t seem to pass as it used to. One day blends into the next and weekends and weekdays don’t seem as distinct as they used to. Psychologists call it subjective time, and it happens because our days and weekend now […]
The Champagne Room.. for COVID times
It’s probably been a while since you’ve gotten out to a champagne room. Depending on your opinion of strip clubs, it maybe has been a very very very long while. But thanks to suggestions from one of my favourite websites – Kinkly.com – you can bring the champagne room to you. In one of their […]
Young People Having Less Sex
A study came out last year finding that young adults – between 18 and 24 – were having less sex than they used to. A lot less, in fact. For men in that age range, 31% considered themselves sexually inactive. This is compared with 19% who considered themselves sexually inactive when the survey was done […]
Discovered Bisexuality
Imagine this scenario. You’re a woman, happily married to a great guy and have a couple of wonderful children, and you realize that you’re attracted to women. The realization comes out of nowhere, but as you think back you realize that you’ve probably always been attracted to both men and woman, but picked the straight, […]
Decadence in NYC
We’re spending a few days in NYC with friends soon. Four of us are going. And we all want to experience everything NYC has to offer – the culture, the sexuality, the energy, the music… everything. The challenge – how to fit all we want to do in three days? Here is our strategy, as […]
Is Fall The Time to Shake Up Your Sexual Routines?
Are your sexual proclivities seasonal? Last February we did something we’d never done. A full-blown BDSM night with friends . It’s not something we have tried before but we were all keen. We hired someone to coach us on safe, light, fun BDSM play, and then we rented a local dungeon for just the 4 […]
Butt Sex… an idea who’s time has come (again).
Are we in the midst of an anal sex comeback? It certainly appears so. A 2017 survey showed that 35% of women and 15% of men are engaging in anal sex ‘at least some of the time”. Is it time to put aside any of the preconceived notions you may have on anal and open […]