I like to own my sexuality, and project it whenever I feel I can. Of course, there are times and places where this isn’t appropriate (like with your kids, or within the workplace) – but there are many times when it is, and it feels really fun and empowering. When I’m feeling happy and sexual, […]
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Role Play … a learning experience
My wife and I, last week, attended a role playing seminar. It was hosted by Venus Envy, a local adult shop and featured author/sex educator Tina Horn. We had wanted to do something like this for a while. We had roles played a tiny bit in the past, to varying degrees of success. Once, with jus the […]
Are Boys In Crisis?
With all the talk of MeToo, male/female income inequality, underrepresentation of women in university STEM program.. it seems like an awful time to be a woman. But over the weekend, a friend shared a terrifying fact with me. Men commit suicide almost 4 times more frequently than women. Thats right… male suicide rates are almost […]
Are You A Cheater…or just a bit of an ass
We all know that cheating is not black and white. Infidelity can take many forms and just because you’re not sticking your junk in your neighbour’s wife, does not mean you are not a cheater. So I was really intrigued when Esther Perell’s new book, The State of Affairs came out. The book looks at the […]
When Did We Stop Learning?
Last night, while sitting with 16 year old daughter at her swim instructor training, I had a thought. This kids learns a lot of new shit.. like, all the time. In the past 6 months: basic first aid, swim instruction (to be a swimming lessons teacher); classical Greek history (for a conference she’s attending), in […]
That Populism Sh&t… sometimes it works for good too.
This weekend, an estimated 800,000 people marched in Washington, calling for stricter gun control, in response to the Parkland shootings. In January, 500,000 people came to the Washington MeToo March. Many liberals – myself among them – have worked themselves into a coronary over the wave of populism that’s rolling over western democracies, and with […]
What’s On Your Sexual Bucket List… and why you need one.
I was having coffee with a female friend recently and we were talking about sex.. as I do. Without going into the details, I explained that my wife and I were trying out role playing. That it was something that had always intrigued us but that we’d always lacked the courage to try. It led […]
Fantasizing About Workmates
We all do it. Those delicious thoughts of a lunchtime tryst the boss’ sexy secretary… or the boss. Sexually coveting our officemates is as old as the office itself. But it goes further. I came across an interesting poll today which found that fully 40% of both men and women masturbate to Facebook images of […]
The Weirdest Sex Invention EVER
You’re alone, indulging in a little ‘self-love’. As you’re being swept up in the waves of sexual bliss… literally teetering on the edge of orgasmic inevitability – what’s going thought your head? Is it: (a) that wild threesome scene you’ve been fantasizing about? (b) that new blow job move your partner has been test piloting? […]
Sugar Babies – you in?
I read a story recently about a women in her 40s who, fed up with dating, instead opts for sugar baby relationships. At the moment, she has 4 sugar babies, each whom she gives about 7,000$ a month. The idea – for those of you not familiar with the term – is that an older […]
Surprise – a guest blog from my wife
Most people can readily be divided into two groups: 1) those who love surprises, and 2) those who don’t. My husband definitely belongs in the first category. He loves the promise of the unknown, and can embrace whatever the surprise brings (we’re only talking about good surprises here – like presents, or taking him some […]
What Counts as Cheating… this might surprise you
“I know it when I see it”… United States Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart – when unable to set clear legal guidelines for what would constitute obscenity – said this. He couldn’t quite define what was an was not obscene, but he assured the public that it would be apparent to him – and to […]
Not all sex positions are created equally
In an act of public service, the British pharmaceutical company, Superdrug, has released a survey on the sex positions we love… and those that scare us. The reporting out on the survey was interesting – and what drew me to it. Rather than simply saying what sexual positions men and women prefer, they tried to […]
In Defence of the 50 Shades Franchise
There are three very distinct camps when it comes to 50 Shades of Grey: the sexual progressives – people who are sexually advanced and already into kink seem to HATE 50 Shades. They believe it to be a glammed-up, dumbed-down depiction of the BDSM lifestyle. They, almost universally, find Anastasia’s character to be weak and […]
We’re All In and We’ll Figure Out How Later
I’ve come to realize that one of the characteristics I value most in my friends is an ability to embrace experiences. My wife and I recently decided to host a party. We invited 30 or 40 people. The immediate response were interesting. About 15 people, the moment we sent the invitation, responded back and […]
When Sex Shops Gentrify
A skim latte, 200 grams of imported Italian prosciutto and a butt plug please. This was our Thursday afternoon, as we wandered through the neighbourhood we used to live in. The neighbourhood – the nicest downtown neighbourhood in our mid-sized hometown – is a yuppie Eden. High end clothings stores, gourmet food, amazing restaurants, coffee […]